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A female colleague saw me masturbating at work. I was in my office after hours with the door locked and blinds down, but I'm afraid the blinds had a crack. I am not an exhibitionist, and this was a moment of weakness. This incident would have been over a month ago, and yes, I have stopped doing that. I only work with my door and blinds open now.



She's been glaring at me for weeks with what looks like contempt. Sometimes I won't even know she's there, but I turn to see her staring me down. It's incredibly uncomfortable.



I have not approached her, and it has never been acknowledged that this is why she's upset. Actually, I'm not even 100% sure if she saw me, but I cannot explain the behavior otherwise, as our rapport went from positive to suddenly hostile without any explanation. I once went to her cubicle and she immediately told me my presence was unwanted. She has had a history of reporting male colleagues that have unwanted advances on her, so I'm afraid that whatever I do to rectify the scenario will make it worse. Note that I don't generally spend time around this person, so I can't think what else I could have done to offend.



How should I approach this scenario? It could be that she's mad about something entirely different, but I wouldn't have the slightest idea at what.



This is in a midwestern US company with roughly 200 employees. We're not in the same unit, but at times are at the same meetings. Nobody else seems to be treating me differently, and I am generally very well-liked by my other colleagues.










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    A female colleague saw me masturbating at work. I was in my office after hours with the door locked and blinds down, but I'm afraid the blinds had a crack. I am not an exhibitionist, and this was a moment of weakness. This incident would have been over a month ago, and yes, I have stopped doing that. I only work with my door and blinds open now.



    She's been glaring at me for weeks with what looks like contempt. Sometimes I won't even know she's there, but I turn to see her staring me down. It's incredibly uncomfortable.



    I have not approached her, and it has never been acknowledged that this is why she's upset. Actually, I'm not even 100% sure if she saw me, but I cannot explain the behavior otherwise, as our rapport went from positive to suddenly hostile without any explanation. I once went to her cubicle and she immediately told me my presence was unwanted. She has had a history of reporting male colleagues that have unwanted advances on her, so I'm afraid that whatever I do to rectify the scenario will make it worse. Note that I don't generally spend time around this person, so I can't think what else I could have done to offend.



    How should I approach this scenario? It could be that she's mad about something entirely different, but I wouldn't have the slightest idea at what.



    This is in a midwestern US company with roughly 200 employees. We're not in the same unit, but at times are at the same meetings. Nobody else seems to be treating me differently, and I am generally very well-liked by my other colleagues.










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      A female colleague saw me masturbating at work. I was in my office after hours with the door locked and blinds down, but I'm afraid the blinds had a crack. I am not an exhibitionist, and this was a moment of weakness. This incident would have been over a month ago, and yes, I have stopped doing that. I only work with my door and blinds open now.



      She's been glaring at me for weeks with what looks like contempt. Sometimes I won't even know she's there, but I turn to see her staring me down. It's incredibly uncomfortable.



      I have not approached her, and it has never been acknowledged that this is why she's upset. Actually, I'm not even 100% sure if she saw me, but I cannot explain the behavior otherwise, as our rapport went from positive to suddenly hostile without any explanation. I once went to her cubicle and she immediately told me my presence was unwanted. She has had a history of reporting male colleagues that have unwanted advances on her, so I'm afraid that whatever I do to rectify the scenario will make it worse. Note that I don't generally spend time around this person, so I can't think what else I could have done to offend.



      How should I approach this scenario? It could be that she's mad about something entirely different, but I wouldn't have the slightest idea at what.



      This is in a midwestern US company with roughly 200 employees. We're not in the same unit, but at times are at the same meetings. Nobody else seems to be treating me differently, and I am generally very well-liked by my other colleagues.










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      A female colleague saw me masturbating at work. I was in my office after hours with the door locked and blinds down, but I'm afraid the blinds had a crack. I am not an exhibitionist, and this was a moment of weakness. This incident would have been over a month ago, and yes, I have stopped doing that. I only work with my door and blinds open now.



      She's been glaring at me for weeks with what looks like contempt. Sometimes I won't even know she's there, but I turn to see her staring me down. It's incredibly uncomfortable.



      I have not approached her, and it has never been acknowledged that this is why she's upset. Actually, I'm not even 100% sure if she saw me, but I cannot explain the behavior otherwise, as our rapport went from positive to suddenly hostile without any explanation. I once went to her cubicle and she immediately told me my presence was unwanted. She has had a history of reporting male colleagues that have unwanted advances on her, so I'm afraid that whatever I do to rectify the scenario will make it worse. Note that I don't generally spend time around this person, so I can't think what else I could have done to offend.



      How should I approach this scenario? It could be that she's mad about something entirely different, but I wouldn't have the slightest idea at what.



      This is in a midwestern US company with roughly 200 employees. We're not in the same unit, but at times are at the same meetings. Nobody else seems to be treating me differently, and I am generally very well-liked by my other colleagues.







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          Do nothing. Anything you do would contribute to validating the story she possibly could tell. That story now would now be "I watched trough the closed blinds of the room of a co-worker, and I though he may be masturbating" and then it could be followed by "so I watched long enough to be sure" or "I turned away quickly". No matter how inappropriate or disgusting, neither case is the basis for clear-cut sexual harassment. Not sure how your company handle such inappropriate behavior, but better not to ask.






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          I am afraid you might be a little confused. You NEVER masturbated at work. Something like that is beneath a professional like you. Anybody at work making any allegations of such a disgusting, unprofessional act should and will be reported to HR a liable for defamation charges.

          Now that you remember nothing happened, make sure you don't even mention such a random possibility in any conversation with your colleagues, female or otherwise. After all, you would be discussing something that never happened.






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            Do nothing. Anything you do would contribute to validating the story she possibly could tell. That story now would now be "I watched trough the closed blinds of the room of a co-worker, and I though he may be masturbating" and then it could be followed by "so I watched long enough to be sure" or "I turned away quickly". No matter how inappropriate or disgusting, neither case is the basis for clear-cut sexual harassment. Not sure how your company handle such inappropriate behavior, but better not to ask.






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            Do nothing. Anything you do would contribute to validating the story she possibly could tell. That story now would now be "I watched trough the closed blinds of the room of a co-worker, and I though he may be masturbating" and then it could be followed by "so I watched long enough to be sure" or "I turned away quickly". No matter how inappropriate or disgusting, neither case is the basis for clear-cut sexual harassment. Not sure how your company handle such inappropriate behavior, but better not to ask.






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            Do nothing. Anything you do would contribute to validating the story she possibly could tell. That story now would now be "I watched trough the closed blinds of the room of a co-worker, and I though he may be masturbating" and then it could be followed by "so I watched long enough to be sure" or "I turned away quickly". No matter how inappropriate or disgusting, neither case is the basis for clear-cut sexual harassment. Not sure how your company handle such inappropriate behavior, but better not to ask.






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            Do nothing. Anything you do would contribute to validating the story she possibly could tell. That story now would now be "I watched trough the closed blinds of the room of a co-worker, and I though he may be masturbating" and then it could be followed by "so I watched long enough to be sure" or "I turned away quickly". No matter how inappropriate or disgusting, neither case is the basis for clear-cut sexual harassment. Not sure how your company handle such inappropriate behavior, but better not to ask.







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            I am afraid you might be a little confused. You NEVER masturbated at work. Something like that is beneath a professional like you. Anybody at work making any allegations of such a disgusting, unprofessional act should and will be reported to HR a liable for defamation charges.

            Now that you remember nothing happened, make sure you don't even mention such a random possibility in any conversation with your colleagues, female or otherwise. After all, you would be discussing something that never happened.






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              I am afraid you might be a little confused. You NEVER masturbated at work. Something like that is beneath a professional like you. Anybody at work making any allegations of such a disgusting, unprofessional act should and will be reported to HR a liable for defamation charges.

              Now that you remember nothing happened, make sure you don't even mention such a random possibility in any conversation with your colleagues, female or otherwise. After all, you would be discussing something that never happened.






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                I am afraid you might be a little confused. You NEVER masturbated at work. Something like that is beneath a professional like you. Anybody at work making any allegations of such a disgusting, unprofessional act should and will be reported to HR a liable for defamation charges.

                Now that you remember nothing happened, make sure you don't even mention such a random possibility in any conversation with your colleagues, female or otherwise. After all, you would be discussing something that never happened.






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                I am afraid you might be a little confused. You NEVER masturbated at work. Something like that is beneath a professional like you. Anybody at work making any allegations of such a disgusting, unprofessional act should and will be reported to HR a liable for defamation charges.

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